It's trusting that the person you love wants to be there, that their love is both a choice and a feeling, and feeling safe and excited in the knowledge that you can make whatever kind of relationship you want together. It's closeness that also allows for space and freedom and room to figure out whatever those two words mean to you, because those definitions change as well. Many things I thought to be true are not, and I'm learning new things about what it means to love and be loved all the time.īut, for now, here’s what the concept means to me: when a song that sounds nothing like a typical “love song” has somehow become one to you folding all your shit Marie Kondo-style to free up a drawer in your dresser someone getting incensed on your behalf when you’ve been wronged, who will also tell you if you’re the one who's wrong.

Without spilling the sordid details, I'm experiencing quite the upheaval in my life right now (sup, Saturn return) - so much so that I'm reevaluating everything I thought I knew about love.

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